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In the very early days of him being around, keep it zipped.You may not get great vibes off him (he "forgot his wallet" the last two times in the pub, right whatever) but look, she might be back swiping though Tinder next week.Dear Alisa, My best friend’s boyfriend is a total douchebag!He treats her horribly and he is verbally and emotionally abusive to her, she totally knows this, but is so in love with him that she won’t leave him.Holding a space of loving encouragement, free from criticism of what you think they should do, won’t cause them to isolate while they’re hurting and will in turn provide a door for finding their own awareness and the path to get there.Encouraging their spirit with compliments instead of criticism, filling their minds with images of how they deserve to be loved because they are so amazing, opening their heart to feel safe and confident to make change by just being present with them through their process, loving them unconditionally even when you disagree with their decisions.Dear Bestie, We know that people won’t change until they’re ready to, until they choose to, so spending energy on trying to change anyone is moot.Your friend won’t leave her boyfriend until she has a change within and makes that choice from her own desire.
Why would a girl date a guy who was a total douche? The thing about assh*les is it isn't exactly easy to decipher their assh*leness straight from the get-go — hence the reason we end up dating them… Little by little (OK, sometimes all at once) their true nature comes to the forefront.
The most loving thing we can do for anyone is to just be present with them during their struggles, not trying to change anything or get them to see our perspective, but to be right next to them with an open and empathetic heart.
Holding space for them is the most powerful thing we can do to support their growth and finding their own desire for change, eliminating any judgement that arises in you regarding it.
You want to see the good in him, so you focus on the rare moments of kindness and sweetness. He might insult me, but he comes from a troubled home.12. I know he'd ask me about my day if he weren't so pissed off.14.
And when he's acting like a dick, you choose to make excuses to every person you know — including yourself — to keep him around instead of cutting him loose.